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Are you a Self-Saboteur?

Do you ask yourself questions like,

“Why do I keep doing this?” “Why do bad things keep happening to me?”

Self-Sabotage is the most defeating practice to our success. We all have experienced it in one way or another.

Do you find yourself:

  • Procrastinating

  • Blaming others when things go wrong

  • Walking away when things are hard

  • Picking fights with people

  • Dating people you know are not “good” for you

  • Not stating your needs

  • Putting yourself down

  • Comfort eating or emotional eating

  • Self-medicating

  • Struggling with perfectionism

  • Comparing yourself to others

  • Burning yourself out

  • Making decisions for other people in your life rather than letting them decide for themselves

This is my short list. If you answered “yes” to any of these, listen up because I have tips to help you change this.

Tips to Overcoming Self-Sabotage

1. Identify what is happening.

Look for patterns. What is the specific behavior you are trying to change?

For example, if you notice that you quit jobs before your annual review -- why? Are you afraid of feedback? This is the hard one, so make sure you are doing this in a kind way. Don’t start this when you are in a bad mood, lacking in sleep, hungry, etc. KINDNESS IS THE KEY HERE. 2. What’s your trigger?

You may already know what they are or maybe you don’t. Time to start paying attention. Triggers could be boredom, doing too well, fear, self-doubt, anxiety, too busy, relationships, environments, etc. Track them – don’t judge them. They are what they are and now that you know what they are you can look for them and do something different. 3. Talk about it!