When people are self-confident, it evokes feelings of trust and inspiration while also giving a feeling of almost being carefree. Sound like something you want? Let’s get you there!
1. Start with appearing more confident. Stand up straight when you are with others, engage with eye contact as not to seem distracted (bear in mind any cultural differences), and act as though you are interested.
2. When your mind is getting in the way, it can be important to ask yourself these questions before you engage with others:
· What do I do well?
· What strengths do other people see in me?
· What threats am I perceiving?
· How can I turn the threats into opportunities?
· What values do other people fail to exhibit?
3. Be prepared. Don’t jump into something without prep work because this only makes you feel more anxious and will drive your actions accordingly.
4. When something difficult comes, acknowledge it and utilize effective coping strategies rather than ruminating and allowing the brain to go haywire. {If you need ideas, jump in my facebook group “Life with Less Tribe”}
5. Quit with the self-critic. My mom always said, “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say it at all.” Now, I don’t always follow this. However, with myself, I am a firm believer in being honest without being mean. I do acknowledge things I do not like about myself and I include what I am going to do to change it at the same time. I do not allow for problem only thinking.
6. Do something you have been putting off. When you complete something that you have avoided, you feel accomplished. You might walk taller and feel better about yourself. Then, repeat.
7. Know your own values and live by them. Do not allow others to dictate how you live your life.
Be You and the confidence will exude.
Somehow I can’t believe that there are any heights that can’t be scaled by a man who knows the secrets of making dreams come true. This special secret, it seems to me, can be summarized in four Cs. They are curiosity, confidence, courage, and constancy, and the greatest of all is confidence. When you believe in a thing, believe in it all the way, implicitly and unquestionable. – Walt Disney